I've been married to the same woman for more than twenty-five years. That stretch of time includes many happy memories and a few unpleasant ones.

Even the rough patches can be beneficial, though. The times we argued or gave each other the silent treatment eventually strengthened our relationship. If they hadn't, I wouldn't be writing this.

There aren't many secrets to a successful marriage. It sure helps to have a wonderful partner who you love, and who loves you back, like me and Linda. Linda and I are perfect for each other.

When we met each other in college, all those years ago, I had to move heaven and earth just to get her attention. After a few weeks, we were friends. A few weeks more and we were like best friends. That, I suppose is the basis for a great marriage, for ours anyway. We are each other's best friend, and we understand our feelings. It may sound cliché, but friendship does create the strongest foundation for a superb marriage.

We dated for almost two years before we married. Marriage to us has been an adventurous voyage in an old three-masted ship. It creaks, and is sometimes becalmed and motionless, sometimes pummelled by storms, but the strong wood - our friendship - protects us and keeps us afloat.

On this voyage, we've picked up a few people on the way: our sons, James and John. They've been the light of our lives and have cemented our marriage forever. They're at an age where they're starting adventures of their own.

Our marital ship has seen its share of troubled waters. There have been times of tears and exchanges of hurtful words - thankfully, not many. Such rough seas may have rocked our boat, but they haven't capsized it. In fact, they often propel us forward. We always take the time to discuss any issues. We don't leave trouble unresolved. Communication goes a long way in holding a marriage together. Linda and I don't often disagree, but we've learned that when we do, it's best to talk rather than hide it within.

Don't give short shrift to the little things, either. It feels funny writing this, but cooking has also helped to keep our marriage alive. Honestly. Linda is a masterful cook and I love her food. We take turns and cook for each other. Tonight's her turn, which is one reason I've had the time to sit down and write this.

Cooking is one of the little things we've always taken time to do for each other. Linda and I both like to spring surprises on each other from time to time. It helps to keep the spark going and you never know what you will get. It's often these little things you do for each other that count most.

Maintaining the chemistry and keeping a marriage alive isn't all that hard, but it does take desire. It sure helps if you start of with the right person for the right reasons. Marry your best friend.